Monday, February 06, 2012

one more open bag, escaped cat

Lots of people have asked a lot of questions lately. Yes, I really am going to stop the monthly letters to and pictures of Chicken. Hopefully that will mean more frequent posting as things occur. She'll probably get a yearly letter. While I know they do keep on rapidly changing, I don't think any year can compare to the first in that department. Granted, it's the only one we've experienced thus far.

No, I don't plan on doing weekly updates during this pregnancy. I do hope to do monthly ones along with monthly belly pics. The very detailed record the first time around was for many reasons, not the least of which was to help me remember (during pregnancy #2) what happened when (during pregnancy #1). It's amazing how quickly you forget stuff.

Yes, I'm planning on going back to work once we have 2 kids (under 2. OMG.).

Yes, we were trying. No, it's probably very rarely ok to ask someone that question. Perhaps only to your best friend.

As we already have tons of baby crap, this baby won't add a whole lot by way of "stuff" to this house. The baby him or herself will be quite small. We'll be able to fit he or she neatly upstairs in the co-sleeper (um, if we can borrow it again). By the time he or she is ready to move downstairs, Chicken will be forced to share a room. You know, if we still live here.

Yes, we're starting to prep the house for sale. The very beginnings of prepping that will likely take quite some time, as do all things these days.

Yes, we'll find out what we're having before the baby is born. Yes, we'll tell you. No, we won't tell you the name as he or she probably won't have one until after his or her appearance.

Like last time, I did journal some privately before announcing the pregnancy publicly. Here's what you need to bring you up to speed. (And, as always, TMI.)

December 6, 2011- So. Five weeks, one day with baby #2. Pretty crazy. We decided to try when Chicken was 9 months old. That was a hard-fought compromise since Hubby would have had me pregnant ASAP. I needed some recovery time both physically and mentally... So we tried in October to no avail. I guess because Chicken came on the first try I was a little concerned something was wrong with me. And I was disappointed. That was a good sign. At least I knew I was on board with trying for baby #2. As it turns out, we needed one month to conceive baby #1 and 2 months for baby #2.

November was our month. My temps looked promising until the day before Thanksgiving. I broke down and [took a test] that day and got a negative. Disappointment again. But it was early and there was still a little hope. On Thanksgiving morning my temp rose again and I [tested] again. I swear, it's addicting. And sad because you're just peeing on money only to throw it away. But, oh! The peace of mind! Totally worth it. Anyway, it was pretty immediately a very faint positive. I told Wyatt I thought it was positive and he was happy. I was happy, too. It seems like there were fewer conflicting emotions this time around. I don't know how people do it when battling infertility. The one month of not getting pregnant was pretty bad. I would think that would be compounded with each subsequent month. It would be hard to have hope. So glad things have worked out for us. Really a miracle.

The morning I got the faint + turned into the morning I got the worst stomach virus ever... I finally felt good enough to go to urgent care on Sunday. Pretty much nothing they could do for me but did confirm the pregnancy. It's funny how being so sick didn't leave me thinking about the baby much except for worrying that I wasn't the most hospitable environment. I was concerned about that...

I was trying to figure out how soon I had weird digestive issues last time and hope to avoid them this time. I'm still excited about the new baby but am also having a hard time believing it's happening. I think it will be more real after the first OB visit on Dec. 20th... Part of me is really glad to get the pregnancy portion of my life over with. I guess I just worry about my health more now in general. Maybe being pregnant will help that since there are all sorts of weird feelings and symptoms that are totally normal. I'm glad to sorta know what to expect, too. I hope this pregnancy goes as well as Chicken's. Somehow I bet it goes by more quickly. You're just too busy to dwell on every little detail when you already have a baby. I hope we adjust ok. I'm guessing it won't be quite as big of an adjustment as it was to go from zero to one kid. But I still imagine I'll be overwhelmed...

Well, Baby #2, sorry you had a rough start. I hope you're doing ok in there and that you're growing and healthy. Can't wait to see you. And to see you and your sister together.

December 25, 2011- This past Tuesday, the 21st, I went for my first OB appointment with Dr. B. At some point after the + UPT, I had a dream that I went to her and she was mad at me for being pregnant again. She wasn't. In fact, as she was finishing the appointment she cracked the door open again and said she wasn't mad... [I got to see the baby on the ultrasound. Just one baby who was] measuring a few days small but [Chicken] did that, too. The [heart rate] was at 132 bpm. [The] due date was discussed. I thought it was August 8th before the appointment. The first nurse put it at August 7th. The ultrasound at August 10th. And the last nurse at August 8th. We're going to go with the 8th because that's our anniversary. Pretty fun if you ask me. [And why get a due date stuck in your head only to have to replace it with an actual birth date? The 8th HAS to be stuck in my head.]

January 20, 2012- [The last OB appointment was the 16th] and I weighed [blah]. Still. I haven't gained anything. That has me a little concerned... I know everything is different with every pregnancy but it's hard to assume everything is ok when you don't look or feel pregnant. The nurse used the Doppler and it took awhile to hear your heartbeat. I was getting nervous. Then we heard it but it wasn't registering on the machine. The nurse guessed it was in the 160s. I hope she was right as that's where you should be. Fingers crossed.

January 23, 2012- Yea! You're in there and measuring right on track! Your heart rate was 170 today and you measured 12 weeks and 1 day. I think you're 12 weeks exactly. Things look good regarding you being healthy and not having any major problems that we could see at this point. We'll know more in 6 weeks. We'll also find out if you're a boy or a girl. Right now I'm just really happy you seem ok. You were moving around, waving, and "talking." Fun to see. You also were not cooperative with the ultrasound tech for awhile. She made me cough and pushed on my belly A LOT. You finally gave in and got into a good position. Perhaps you'll be like me--doing what people want you to do, eventually, in your own time.

Back to the present. I'm 14 weeks today. My next appointment is next week. Next update may be in 2 weeks. I figure every 4 weeks is a good time. And gender-revealing ultrasound is scheduled for the 5th. Mark your calendars.

(In case you have no idea what the title means, this was the announcement of my pregnancy with Chicken.)

6 comments:

Colleen said...

Eeeeeeee!!! Congrats to you & your family! I've been following your blog since you commented about wanting an unmedicated birth on Marisa's blog before Chicken was born. I swear I'm not a stalker, but read through a bit of your blog, and discovered that you got married a week after us, then honeymooned in Ireland like us, and then had Chicken a handful of months after we had our first. So of course I'm extra-excited for you & your 2nd pregnancy, as we're also pregnant again and due July 29-ish. :-) I'll especially look forward to following your adventures with 2 under 2! (Oh! And I've also not gained any weight yet, but have felt The Noob move a few times, so probably ok for us both??)

cjm said...

Colleen! Very exciting! So do you have a son or daughter already? Do you know what you're having this time around? I'm not sure if I've felt movement or gas thus far. I'd just like to gain a little weight at some point. Seriously... Anyway, thanks for commenting!

Colleen said...

We have a little girl (17 months now; will be 23 when Noob gets here). My husband didn't want to find out the sex with #1, but his sisters, mom & I out-voted him. :-) So this time we're not finding out. I lurk on a couple of message boards & it's tough because it seems like *everyone's* finding out by now, but the people who wait swear that it's fantastic. First time around, I was really hoping for a girl; this time I'm ambivalent, which helps.

cjm said...

It's fun to wait. We decided to wait for the first one since we were a clean slate but this time I'd like to know if we're getting more of the same or not. :)

Becca said...

Baby's really a gift that makes us excited for their coming.

happy for you guys!!

Katie Lady said...

I just love your writing, my dear. Always makes me smile.

Surprised to hear you are moving. Where to? You have such a great house, I'm sad!

Also, it never ceases to amaze me the personal questions people feel they are entitled to ask (and you are obligated to answer) about your pregnancy and/or children.

I'm so excited for y'all!!!