Thursday, April 30, 2009

today is...

  • The day I get to go back home?
  • The 101st day of the presidency?
  • The last day of April?
  • Willie Nelson's 76th birthday?

Yes, it's all of those things. It also marks 100 days till the wedding. Yikes! I can't believe, after all the weddings I've been in, that I'm finally going to be in my own. Woohoo!

Tuesday, April 28, 2009


During the very long flight yesterday morning, I was able to finish the third book in the Twilight series. And, you know, then spill coffee on it. So I have one more left and I can't tell you how pleased I am that I actually want to read it. Here's the quick recap.

Twilight? Loved it. Couldn't wait to get started on the second one. Requested the remaining 3 for Christmas and got them. I could see how they gained popularity and could definitely see myself being obsessed with them if I were a tween/teen. And I was glad that they aren't smutty. Unrealistically romantic? Definitely but I think the youngsters may be missing romance in their relationships.

New Moon? Sucked. She could have cut out the middle 2/3 and it would have been better. I was sick of the main character. I realize that breaking up with someone is a big deal and when you're a teenager you think (even more so) that your life is over, that you will never love again. But come on. Those 2/3 set a terrible example. Despite all that, I heard that the third book was better so I carried on.

Eclipse? Yep, way better. I was anxious to finish once I got to the last 100-150 pages. Unfortunately, I left the fourth book at home.

Now, on Sunday evening I forced The Fiance to watch the Twilight movie with me. I thought it was awful. Some of the casting wasn't so hot in regards to how characters are described in the book (and what I pictured in my head). What's worse, is that I think the acting was terrible. And I know you can't make a movie exactly how very long books are written, but it felt so rushed. (I know, it's like that Annie Hall quote..."Boy, the food at this place is really terrible...and such small portions.") I didn't really feel like the central relationship was established, I didn't really care about the characters, and I thought the special effects were less than stellar. But since I was invested in the series, I forced us to finish it. I sure hope the second movie is better but considering most of the actors will be repeating their roles, I don't have high hopes.

Monday, April 27, 2009

is it tuesday yet?

Today begins about 3 1/2 weeks of nightmare travel. I mean, way worse than normal. Want to know how it started? I had a 7:30 flight this morning. When I got to the airport I found out that it was cancelled. I got on the 8:00 instead. That left at 8:45. We boarded the plane only to find out that a 40 minute flight was going to take us 2 hours and 20 minutes due to routing us over Australia before getting us to Dallas. While on the plane, I spilled coffee all over my pants. That were (previously) not a dark color. When I got to the rental car place, my name was not on the board (something you hope for as a child but not a business traveler). Sigh... It's been a terribly long day. I'm beat. If this is any sign of what's to come, I'm crawling into bed (at some hotel) and am just going to hide.

Tuesday, April 21, 2009

the ring

I'm going to post as if people are still reading...

I've seen a lot of fun pictures of engagement rings on many websites. A few photographers have given hints to getting a good shot and their first tip is to take the ring off your finger. Here are a few of mine (shots not fingers).

Monday, April 20, 2009

beauty and the beast

I went to download pictures just now and totally forgot what was previously on my camera. So two-part post this Monday morning.

Awhile back I decided to pick up some flowers to try my hand at centerpiece arrangements. We (meaning me and some super helpful ladies) are doing the flowers ourselves. I haven't spoken to the florist to see what all we might be able to get in season (ish) but here are a few shots of my dream flowers.

I heart ranunculus.

And peonies. And fluffy and/or garden roses.

The centerpieces will be in Mason jars and may look something like that. For some reason, I'm having a little bit of a hard time committing to a flower idea.

In other wedding news, I have my bridal portraits scheduled, we picked a rehearsal dinner place, and I think we have a cake person (just need to decide between two good ones).

The "beast" portion of this post is about Saturday's weather. Good grief, people. I'm glad The Fiance and I were home during the worst of it but afterwards it looked like this.

Poor parts of neighbor's house that are now stuck in my sideways, partially uprooted bushes. Poor papaya tree (again). Poor neighbor's tree (again) on his mother's poor rental car. Not pictured? Poor gutters and shingles that are no longer attached to my house.

That's worse than it looked here after the hurricane. (Insert "Thank God it didn't look worse after the hurricane" here.) All that progress we had been making in the yard quickly got set back. There was a ton of clean up yesterday. Things look quite a bit better but are still kind of a mess.

In other exciting (and more positive) house news, The Brother came over yesterday to help me with part of The Ugly Bathroom. Man, that project has gotten drawn out. Of course, now that he's done his part and everything else really is DIY for me, I want to finish it. Like right now. Sigh... Perhaps you'll get a "the bathroom formerly known as The Ugly Bathroom" post within the next few weeks. We're talking some serious improvement.

Wednesday, April 15, 2009

i'm often overwhelmed

And the thing is, I don't think I get overwhelmed easily. I think it takes a lot...which means I often have a lot on my plate. I'm going to tell myself that there are many people who would buckle under less because, hey, it makes me feel better.

What's overwhelming me now? Work. Wedding planning. Work. Car maintenance. Work. My ever-changing, double-booked schedule. Yard work. Housework. Work work. The fact that there are so many things that are going on and up in the air and on the To Do list that--wait--there are so many things that many haven't even made it to a list. Having things missing from the list stresses me out.

Being overwhelmed ends up with me stretched too thin and makes me feel like I'm doing a half-assed job at everything which makes me feel incompetent in general. This doesn't exactly lead to a person being more focused and productive. It also makes me feel like I'm neglecting the important people, especially The Fiance. That is just crappy, and I really hate feeling that way.

First, I need to figure out what items need to go on what list. Then I need to see what I can delegate. After that? I need to see what can be done to help minimize this in the future. See? There's a list right there...

(Might I add that I cannot emphasize enough how relieved I am to not be including health scares on the list.)

Monday, April 13, 2009


When I got home Friday morning after 1 am, I was greeted by the site of The Fiance's truck in my driveway. It was a nice surprise and I think what I'm most looking forward to about being married. We'll actually be living together.

Obviously we spend a lot of time together when I'm in town but something shifted once that ring was on my finger. The time spent together increased. The thinking about things in terms of "we" was more pronounced. Before, it didn't seem like that symbol or that title change would make such a difference, but it does. I now have no doubt that it will change yet again when that second ring is on my finger (and he finally gets one!).

For the most part, I was a happy single person. I have a lot of friends. I could do what I wanted when I wanted whether that meant going out or staying in. I worked hard to reach goals. Sure, I wished that I had someone to share life with but on a day-to-day basis you can ignore that part. What you need on a day-to-day basis is help. I would look at my married friends or friends with older children and see that while there may be more to do there's not twice as much to do and yet they have two entire human beings to accomplish tasks. Two people who can work in the yard or cook dinner or pay bills or run errands. That not every single task that needs accomplishing is on one person's shoulders. Man, that is posh. At those times it felt less like I needed a boyfriend and more like I needed a personal assistant.

The thing is, you don't get a personal assistant. You get a team. It's fantastic. And the best part is, it's just the icing. Having someone to mow the yard or unload the dishwasher or figure out why you can't fix this freakin' error on your taxes is merely a nice perk on top of everything else they bring to your life. (But it's still a darn good perk.)

Thursday, April 09, 2009

if heaven were a sandwich

I'm finishing up a very compact 3-day trip to California for work. By "compact" I mean that I had to get up ridiculously early on Tuesday to make it out here. And I won't get in until after midnight, probably closer to 1:30am, tonight. Ugh.

"What makes it all worth it?" you ask.

Is it that it means I still have a job even in this economy? Oh, sure. That's nice, too. But what makes me happiest here? Is it the weather? Ah, not this time. It's a little chilly.

What makes this trip worth it is the sandwich. If you could be in love with a sandwich... This is the site where I take a nice little walk up to the liquor store to buy lunch. I know, I know. I don't drink my lunch. Perhaps if alcoholics could get their hands on this sandwich all their problems would be solved. It's the Christopher Columbus. It's mayo, mustard, turkey, provolone, avocado, and lettuce on sourdough. Sometimes I add tomato. If you so desired, you could add onions. I don't know why I love it so much other than the combination of flavors work so well together. It's so good you may need to smoke afterwards...

I know. I'm going on and on about a sandwich. Perhaps I need to go home.

Wednesday, April 08, 2009


Only FOUR months to go!

At times, it all seems very surreal to me. Like maybe I'm just planning a party instead of a wedding. A wedding that will start a marriage. When I was single I really tried to keep some tiny shred of hope that this day would come but I unfortunately lost it several times.

Thanks, Fiance, for picking me.

Monday, April 06, 2009

and....they're off!

My clean bill of health (relatively speaking) couldn't have come at a better time. I had 5 appointments booked for us this weekend to try to knock out some of the remaining big wedding decisions. Again, I think I was hoping for the best but a scared little part of me was dragging its wedding-planning feet. No more.

Saturday morning we met with a baker whose cake I just didn't like. Pretty important. It doesn't matter how beautiful the cake is, you still have to eat it. Taste is important. Scratch that place off the list. With our extra time before the next appointment, we visited with The Fiance's folks. Then off to the second bakery. Good cake. GOOD. And very reasonably priced. I would have been ready to pick them but I think The Fiance wants to eat more cake. There are a few other places we could try out but they have less convenient cake tasting times. We'll see. And meeting with these folks has helped me solidify what I want my cake to look like. For some reason I didn't have a strong picture in my head before.

After the second bakery, we headed into town to meet with a photography company. The were nice and take good pictures and are a good deal (again, relatively speaking--it's all pricey). But we still had one more photographer to meet with on Sunday. Going into it, I was pretty sure we'd pick one of these two options and I think I'm going to be right. If I understood everything correctly at our meeting with the Sunday photographer, we'll likely go with her. I've really liked her photos from the beginning so that would be very exciting. Once we decide, I'll share the website with you so I won't be the only one staring at other people's wedding photos obsessively. Um, or maybe I will.

And the final appointment of the weekend was for me to meet up with my ladies so they could pick bridesmaid dresses. It was great to see them all again and the dress picking went really well. I didn't want to mandate one particular dress to 5 differently shaped girls so they each got to pick their own (within certain parameters). They all honestly look great in their selections. I'm very excited for the dresses to come in and to see them all together (and in the proper color). We also marked the flower girl's dress off the To Do list.

One item not on the list but also addressed this weekend was the rehearsal dinner site. We had previously narrowed the list down to four. One we're marking off due to price and one other due to looking a little ghetto and not having nearby parking. One place looks good but we weren't quite ready to seal the deal.

All in all, TONS of progress this weekend. Oh, I also did a little crafting on a smaller wedding project. I'm getting more excited since most of the big decisions are almost made! Next comes the fun part where I get to be crafty and force my craftiness on others. It was a really good weekend.

NOTE: We're signing the photographer today. Here's her website. Woohoo!

Thursday, April 02, 2009


I've pretty much never been this relieved. Ever.

No cancer. Results came back ok. Just need follow up in 6 months. That? I can handle.

Praise. Tiny. Baby. Jesus.

Wednesday, April 01, 2009

beginning with a single step

I drove about 375 miles today. All in Texas. All for work. But, you know? It wasn't bad because probably 200 miles of it looked like this:

(from here)

Ahh, Texas...

(Still patiently awaiting biopsy results. Perhaps tomorrow.)